Quote of the Day: “To be old and wise, you must first be young and stupid.”
I turned twenty-two six months ago and I’m still in disbelief that I’m so old. If you’re older and reading this, you’re probably rolling your eyes and thinking “Old? Twenty-two? You’re still a baby” or something along those lines, but when I was younger, I always just imagined what my twenties would look like and it felt as though it was so far away. Now, I’m freaking living as a twenty-two year old and in less than ten years, I’ll be in my thirties! CRAZY!
I started feeling especially old these past few months for two reasons. One: just being out of college and being in an environment with older people. Two: coaching middle school basketball. One day at practice, I asked the eighth grade girls how old they were and if they knew about High School Musical. They said they were twelve, and they had to think about what High School Musical was before answering “yes.” I couldn’t believe that I was ten years older! Also, more shocking, they had to freaking think about High School Musical. Crazy in my opinion.
So in the spirit of feeling really old, I curated a list of things I wish I could tell my younger self…also some things that apply to my current self.
To Younger Taylor:
- Learn to code and learn to love it. This is kind of a joke, but not really because if you go on LinkedIn or Indeed or any job board website, you’ll notice that the majority of the job listings are software engineers.
- Listen to your parents when they try and force you to learn new skills. Like a lot of kids, I was very against taking piano lessons. I had zero interest in it. My parents tried to get me and my sister to take lessons, but we absolutely refused. Now, here I am wishing I could play piano. This is the same with skiing. I mean it’s not too late to learn either, but I should’ve just learned when I was younger.
- Read more… just to broaden your vocabulary. I find myself having conversations with people and often times hearing words that I don’t know. Sometimes I can figure out what they mean, but sometimes I’m just left wondering what the heck they’re talking about. There’s very few people I’m actually comfortable asking what a word means.
- Don’t be afraid to try out. I played basketball from third grade to eighth grade and LOVED IT. Literally, the most fun sport I ever played. I wanted to continue playing in high school, but was too scared to try out. Like Taylor… are you freaking kidding me? Too scared? You’re lame!
- Stop comparing yourself. I am the queen of comparing myself or my life to other people and their lives. I think it has to do with social media, whether it be Instagram or LinkedIn. I feel like it just adds a lot of stress to my life because I see what other people are doing or where they’re working or whatever. The most current thing… moving. I feel like everyone has moved or is moving (cough cough Erin) and if I don’t move soon, I will forever be stuck at home going no where in life and not growing as a person.
- Try harder in school. I’m not saying I didn’t try hard, but I know I could’ve tried harder. Enough said.
- Don’t be so competitive. I guess this kind of has to do with comparing myself to others, but I’ll make it a separate point. I feel like when I hear someone say they ran this far, then I have to also and then when I don’t, I’m just so disappointed and angry. I used to try and out run whomever was on the treadmill next to me. Sometimes it got hard when I’d already been on the treadmill for a little bit and someone just got on. But, I HATE LOSING.
- Tell people how you feel. I’ve never been someone to open up and clearly state how I feel. I typically let it boil up inside of me until I explode or until I just forget about it. Definitely not the way to go. Feelings are important.
- Social media is kind of stupid. I think there are both good and bad things about social media. A lot of the times I think it is a complete waste of time. I think it has a negative impact on a lot of people mainly because of comparisons. Remember, what you see are just online personas. They don’t tell the whole story of someone.
- Control your own life and take risks. I’ve always been someone who kind of just listens to the rules and doesn’t take many risks. I think life is about taking risks, so why don’t I? I should be in control of my own life because it’s ultimately my life. Make a plan and do it Taylor. I am in control…hopefully.
This list could honestly go on for so long. I’m constantly living and I’m constantly learning, so there’s so much I would want to tell my younger self. The only thing I can do now is listen to what I’ve learned. What would you want to tell your younger self?