Before you are in your first relationship, you picture it to be just like the movies where everything is perfect, the guy is always a gentleman, and you fall in love immediately. Although I do love watching these types of movies, they are not realistic at all. In fact, they introduce many relationship stereotypes and just show a false representation of relationships. Here are a few relationship stereotypes I have come up with.
- Significant Others Have to be Best Friends: I think when you are just dating someone for a few months, your significant other does not need to become your best friend. Your best friend is probably someone you’ve known for a while and have spent a lot of time with, so it’s okay if your significant other isn’t your best friend right off the bat. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over 1 year now, and despite him being my best friend, I’m reminded quite frequently that I am not his best friend…only his 2nd best friend.
- The Boyfriend Has to Make the First Move Always: This day in time, I think this concept of the guy always having to do things first is slowly disappearing; however, I do think that many girls still expect the guy to always do something first. For example, girls wait to tell their boyfriend they have them because they want to hear it or they don’t want to scare them off. If you love someone, why not tell them once you start feeling those feelings? I told my boyfriend first and sometimes although I wish he would’ve told me first, I don’t regret doing it.
- All Couples are “Lovey-Dovey”: When I say “Lovey-Dovey” I mean constantly showing each other affection and always touching each other. People think that couples are always happy and affectionate towards one another and that’s what makes them so happy. That is so false. My boyfriend and I are somewhat affectionate towards each other, but definitely not to the extreme. We don’t always hold hands when we are walking, but that doesn’t mean we don’t love each other any less.
- “Fine” Actually Means “Not Fine”: This is a yes and a no. When I say fine, I usually am just giving up in some argument and making a compromise. It doesn’t always mean I am mad at my boyfriend. Sometimes when I say “fine” I actually am pissed and annoyed, but not always. I think “fine” has become a word with so many different meanings…it’s actually really hard to read when people say “fine.” Let’s just not say it and leave it at that.
Well that’s pretty much all I could come up with. This blog post isn’t the most helpful, but I think it gives us all something to think about in our own relationships. If you think of any relationship stereotypes, leave them down below in the comments!
~TaylorTags: relationships, stereotypes