College Q&A

in Advice, College, July 25, 2018

Hi all,

The transition from high school to college is scary. I remember how nervous I was to start college because I didn’t know what to expect.  My college expectations were solely based off of movies such as Pitch Perfect, Sydney White, Sorority Wars, etc. I always imagined I would become good friends with my roommate, join a sorority, and know exactly what I wanted to major in. Barely any of those things happened, but that’s okay. College is a place for you to truly find who you are, rather than capitalize on the person you think you are. Now as a rising senior, I think I have a decent amount of advice to share that could potentially help prepare you all for college. Here are some of the most common questions I have gotten in the past or heard other people ask.

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Q: Do you have to know your major before going into college?

A: Most people say no. You can take your first year to explore classes and see what really interests you. I would say, no you don’t need to know, but it is nice to have somewhat of an idea. If you know you want to go into the sciences, consider taking the main science sequences such as general chemistry and biology. These classes are a requirement for most science majors. My freshmen year I had absolutely no clue what I wanted to study so I took the most random classes ever. I had a feeling I was going to major in Human Physiology, but I wasn’t positive, so I didn’t take any classes I needed that year. That was the biggest mistake and ultimately made me a little behind. So no, you don’t need to know what you want to study going into college, but it really makes planning the four years a lot easier.

Q: Is Greek life as big as people think it is?

A: NO. I mean I think this varies from school to school, but at least at my school, Greek life is not everything. I rushed my freshmen year because my parents thought it would be good for me to meet people outside of my dorm. I joined Kappa Delta, but dropped almost a month after. It was not for me at all. I didn’t really like the time commitment and I personally don’t like socializing that much. But that’s just me. I found my group of friends and none of them are in a sorority. I also met a ton of people in my classes, some part of Greek life, and some not. No one really judges you if you’re part of Greek life or not. Also, people who are part of Greek life do not rule the school at all.

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Q: Thoughts on hook up culture?

A: The hook up culture is very real, but it’s not something you have put yourself through. It is a really confusing topic because the definition of “hook up” is unclear. “Hook up” can range from making out to having sex and everyone has their own definition of it. I also think hook up culture has a double standard. If a guy hooks up with a lot of girls, they are worshipped, but if a girl hooks up with a lot of guys, they’re labeled as a “slut.” It makes no sense at all. I don’t think hooking up should be something anyone should be judged for. Some people want to be free and not tied down, while others want the full relationship. Either is fine it’s really just personal preference. I personally would kiss a lot of boys at parties freshmen year because I saw other people in my dorm doing it, plus in high school I was a little more “prude.” Looking back, I don’t really regret it because it got out my craziness and now I am way more mellow and don’t have any desire to hook up at all. But if I didn’t do it freshmen year, then I think I would be doing it now.

Q: Is it hard to balance being a full-time student and working?

A: I personally don’t find it that difficult, but that’s because I only work 10 hours per week (so basically nothing). I also work for the school’s dining hall, so the hours are really flexible and I can cater them to my schedule. If I worked 20+ hours, I would be stressed all the time and would never have time to do anything that I really want to do. I do think it is important to work during school though. It’s a great place to interact with people you typically wouldn’t and plus you get money that you can use as spending money or save for the future.

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Q: Do you make friends immediately?

A: Based on my experience, I found it a little difficult to make friends. I thought I would be friends with my roommate, but she had a good amount of people from her hometown that went to our school, so she didn’t really have any desire to be friends, but honestly, it made being roommate a lot easier. I found a good group of girls in my dorm and am still friends with all of them to this day. When I lived in the dorms, I thought I had a decent amount of friends because I was constantly surrounded by people. Once I moved out, sophomore year, I realized meeting people was a lot harder. I’m not really the type of person to talk to someone I’m sitting next to in class, but occasionally I would try. I met a few people in my classes, but I met the majority of people through intramural sports. Just getting involved and putting yourself out there is the best thing you can do to make friends.

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Q: Any last piece of advice? 

A: Don’t abandon your family and don’t forget about your friends from home. Your family is truly the only people who will remain constant in your life. Don’t forget to call them and let them know how you’re doing. Your parents want to know you’re okay and want to know what you’re up too. Of course you don’t need to give them the exact run down, but just let them know you’re still alive and all is good. Don’t have them worry about you when there is no need to. Also, your home friends are probably your first group of friends ever. My friends from home have known me since elementary school. That’s a long time. That’s a long time to build a good friendship. Don’t let that friendship dissolve to nothing. Make an effort to see them while everyone is home for breaks. It’s important to have different sets of friends everywhere.

Hope these questions and answers helped a little bit. I have so many more questions that I have really good responses for, but I think I’m going to ask some of my friends to answer them and hear what they have to say…so stay tuned!

~Taylor